How our love lives became a political battleground

By Lorraine de Foucher

Posted today at 00h43

Political love can start with a text. The one Loubna, 53, discovered in her husband’s cell phone. He declared there to his mistress of about thirty years his fascination with her youth and her vitality. “I had menopause which was coming at the same time, I felt thrown in the trash after twenty-five years of good and loyal service in managing the house, the children, my career, its anxieties, while always remaining smiling. “ In shock, Loubna first feels guilty: “I told myself that it was my fault, that I was no longer interesting and attractive enough. “

Then she goes to therapy, starts reading books on feminism, and looks at the situation differently. “I went from guilt to anger, from ‘it’s my fault’ to ‘anyway, in a system like that, I can’t win’. “ Loubna has since divorced. She sometimes feels alone, but free, from her schedule, from her associates, not to offer all her mental energy to someone other than herself.

Love as a political fact is also measured with a classification carefully scrutinized in this literary season: that of the best sales of books. Mona Chollet, with Reinvent love. How the patriarchy sabotages heterosexual relationships (Zones, 276 pages, 19 euros), including Eric Zemmour and France has not said its last word (Rubempré, 352 pages, 21.90 euros). The Swiss essayist, who had an incredible success with the general public with his opus Witches. The undefeated power of women (Zones, 2018), talks about this chance that we can seize, that “To invent love relationships that are a little more egalitarian and exciting”. Like many current thinkers, she considers that we love as our time allows us, and not according to our own amorous transports. That love is not only this intimate fact par excellence, which belongs only to our own individualities.

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For Victoire Tuaillon, there is nothing more political than love. Like Mona Chollet, she loved then loved the 848 pages of the novel less Beauty of the Lord by Albert Cohen. She saw in it the mark of a superb passion, before finally telling herself that Solal and Ariane were stuck in an extremely normative heterosexual love choreography. Like Mona Chollet, she is one of the authors of this “Romantic and political revolution” In progress. On the terrace of a Chinese restaurant in Belleville, Paris, next to the Binge Audio premises, where the young woman has successively created and lent her voice to the podcasts “Les Couilles sur la table”, then “Le Cœur sur la table” “, Two appointments with huge audience scores (” Les Couilles … “, 15 million cumulative listenings for 70 episodes;” Le Cœur … “, 4 million for 12 episodes), Victoire Tuaillon scrolls through the hundreds of emails received following the broadcast of its sound documentaries. There is this teacher from Seine-Saint-Denis who played podcasts to his students so that they understand the role of sexism in everyday life, this young married woman and polyamorous suffering from the eyes of others.

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