are children re-educating their parents?

UOne of the biggest quirks of parenthood could be summed up as follows: while you are initially convinced that you are going to teach your children a lot of things (“You see son, the windshield knot is done like that!” “), you realize after a while that the child has just as much to teach you, if not more. This reversed educational dynamic is called reverse mentoring in companies and covers various situations, such as when a young generation Z teaches his N + 1, community manager aging although in Converse, how to use TikTok. The phenomenon is also imposed on the family world, and not only because your descendants know how to use all the smartphone’s functions better than you.

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In a way, each educational sequence has its share of reverse mentoring. When you teach your child, for example, to eat properly, his insistence on smearing your clothes with regurgitation suddenly makes you rediscover that stylistic recklessness of your younger years, those precious moments when being neglected didn’t really matter much to you. as long as you have a good time. Did you imagine yourself building your lineage? Here you are referred to the sometimes a little disproportionate importance that you give to clothing standards. This is undoubtedly a kind of mirror rehabilitation. While each knowledge imposed too vertically on your offspring will function as a preconditioning of experience, and therefore a reduction in freedom, the reverse mentoring will offer a salutary counterpoint to this autocratic educational inclination.

Relativistic reframing

Everything you have to transmit to the child will then be the subject of a relativistic reframing all the more surprising as it seems unconscious. When you teach the baby to articulate, you will rediscover, at the same time, that there are other languages, those of the eyes, of touch, of pure emotion, the power of which you had largely forgotten. Not to mention the thousand and one shades of cries. A little later, at the stroke of 3 or 4 years, the children start bombarding you with “why”, to which are added the “how” and “when”: “Why are the clouds hanging in the sky? ? Why am I not allowed to watch a movie during the week? When will the Earth stop spinning? “

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